The Goose Story
When you see geese flying along in “V” formation, you might consider what science has discovered as to why they fly that way. As each bird flaps its wings, it creates uplift for the bird immediately following. By flying in “V” formation, the whole flock adds at least 71 percent greater flying range than if each bird flew on its own. People who share a common direction and sense of community can get where they are going more quickly and easily because they are traveling on the thrust of one another.
When a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to go it alone — and quickly gets back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird in front. If we have as much sense as a goose, we will stay in formation with those people who are headed the same way we are.
When the head goose gets tired, it rotates back in the wing and another goose flies point. It is sensible to take turns doing demanding jobs, whether with people or with geese flying south. Geese honk from behind to encourage those up front to keep up their speed.
What messages do we give when we honk from behind? Finally — and this is important — when a goose gets sick or is wounded by gunshot, and falls out of formation, two other geese fall out with that goose and follow it down to lend help and protection. They stay with the fallen goose until it is able to fly or until it dies, and only then do they launch out on their own, or with another formation to catch up with their group.
If we have the sense of a goose, we will stand by each other like that.
Often when women get pregnant they read as many pregnancy and birth related books and articles as they can find. They learn about the size of their baby, birthing positions and how to breastfeed. … And then it stops. Often when I get a client asking me about parenting they haven’t read a parenting book. When I ask why they say they are overwhelmed with the choices. Navigating the many many choices of parenting books can make you feel anxious- every book SOUNDS great on the back, it’s so hard to choose! I have helped you do some of the leg work and picked 10 of the best peaceful parenting books to date. Enjoy.
Playful Parenting. Lawrence J. Cohen Ph.D
Parenting from the Inside Out, How a Deeper Self- Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive. Daniel J. Siegel,. M.D. and Mary Hartzell
Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need To Matter More Than Peers. Gordon Neufeld, Gabor Mate
Elevating Childcare: A Guide To Respectful Parenting. Janet Lansbury
The Whole Brained Child. Daniel J Siegel
Siblings Without Rivalry How to Help Your Children Live Together So you Can Too Adele Faber
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk Adele Faber
Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason Alfie Kohn
Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves: Transforming parent-child relationships from reaction and struggle to freedom, power and joy Naomi Aldort
Rest Play Grow Deborah MacNamara
About the Author
Nicole Chambers is a local Maple Ridge Counsellor and has over 15 years experience working with children from age 6 weeks+. She is also a trained birth & postpartum Doula, Childbirth Educator and Placenta Encapsulation Specialist and Early Childhood Educator. She’s trained in Nobody’s Perfect parenting, Hand in Hand Parenting, Expressive Play Therapy and continues to take courses on child development, trauma, birth and adolescence.